Today I have something very special for you guys. My husband, Logan (Logy, Yogan, L) has decided that he is going to share something from his heart. I have lovingly and carefully decided to call these “Manly Moments” and I hope there will be lots of them. Y’all, you’re in for a treat. Without further ado…
Since becoming a dad, I have had the privilege of doing dad tasks. I get to fix and wash bottles, watch Vols game while holding Shep in the recliner, and (everyone’s favorite) changing diapers. While I enjoy doing all of these things and more because I absolutely love the kid; I also know that it is my job to do those things because I am his dad. However, I have noticed that just by doing things, people have decided that I am a “good” dad.
I think that it is a clear indicator of where we have been, where we are at, and where we are going as a society. The father’s role in the family used to be strictly bread winner. The mother took care of all of the raising and the father would discipline, if needed, but was mostly just a figurehead in their children’s lives. That was followed by a period where fathers did not stick around and left the mother and the child to fend for themselves. While both of those scenarios still take place, we have also moved into a phase where praise is showered on a father that decides to be a part of their child’s everyday life.
Being a dad can’t be a choice if being a mom is considered a title.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I like that people consider me a good dad. I feel confident that I have surrounded myself with men that many would consider good dads. However, I also think that we are doing an injustice to mothers. Being a dad can’t be a choice if being a mom is considered a title.
To borrow from my job as a coach, parenting is a team sport. Sure, one of us might knock a homerun every now and then, but more often than not we might have to hit a groundball to the right side of the infield to get the runner home. All that to say, I know that in order for me to be a good dad, Tori has to be a good mom.
So, let’s start giving credit where credit is deserved. When you see a mom that looks like she is struggling around the store with her kids trying to throw everything she doesn’t need in her buggy. When you see a mom that looks a little tired because she is the one that wakes up with her kid. When you see a mom that runs a little late every where because her husband is somewhere else living his life. Let her know that you recognize that being a mom is a choice and she is doing great at it. Let her know she’s being a “good” mom.
Isn’t he just the best? Yes, he does do the bottles (and the dishes, every. single. night.) No, he isn’t up for grabs. He’s all mine, and has been for about 10 years now. I’m such a lucky lady so have such a “good” dad on my team. Leave him some love in the comments below!